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Sometimes a parent’s will can specifically name certain beneficiaries for certain things; however many times it is simply stated that everything in the will should be passed out to each child equally.  This leaves one of the children to become the executor, who must divvy up the belongings to his/her siblings.  This is where things can get a little dicey.  It is not always easy to pass out valuables from your parents. When you add in grief, bitterness, and knowing that siblings are masters at pushing each other's buttons, this process can become an emotional rollercoaster.
Here are a couple of ways to approach this sensitive subject while minimizing conflict among siblings.

1. Acknowledging beforehand that the sibling relationship is far more important than Mom or Dad’s expensive ring.  Although hurtful things may be said to each other during the decision making process, make a pact that it won’t damage your relationship.

2. Write down or talk about certain items that might be very special to you.  This will help identify which items might lead to fighting. It might also help to avoid confrontations by letting each other know why a specific item is important to you.

3. A very important way of keeping everyone happy is deciding on a selection process that everyone thinks is fair.  A good way of doing this is by randomly picking the order in which the siblings choose items.  After the last one chooses, let him/her choose again going back up the line.  This fair process will keep everyone happy and can actually make the process more enjoyable.

4. Items with large monetary value, like jewelry or antiques, need special treatment.  A good way of approaching this is by starting with a review of the item.  Whoever really wants the item can pay the other for it, either by accepting a smaller inheritance or simply with cash.  

5. Lastly, if the item means a lot to one or more siblings, sometimes it is best to sell the item and split the money.  This way both siblings feel the same way, rather than one getting the upper hand.  It is always better to lose an object than a relationship with a sibling.

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